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CHAPTER V
ANIMADVERSIONS ON SOME OF THE WRITERS WHO HAVE RENDERED WOMEN OBJECTS OF
PITY, BORDERING ON CONTEMPT
The opinions speciously supported in some modern
publications on the female character and education, which have given the tone
to most of the observations made, in a more cursory manner, on the sex, remain
now to be examined. SECTION I I shall begin with Rousseau, and give a sketch of his
character of woman in his own words, interspersing comments and reflections. My
comments, it is true, will all spring from a few simple principles, and might
have been deduced from what I have already said; but the artificial structure
has been raised with so much ingenuity that it seems necessary to attack it in
a more circumstantial manner, and make the application myself. Sophia, says Rousseau, should be as perfect a woman
as Emilius is a man, and to render her so it is necessary to examine the
character which nature has given to the sex. He then proceeds to prove that woman ought to be weak
and passive, because she has less bodily strength than man; and hence infers
that she was formed to please and to be subject to him, and that it is her duty
to render herself agreeable to her master-this being the grand end of her existence.1
Still, however, to give a little mock dignity to lust, he insists that man
should not exert his strength, but depend on the will of the woman, when he
seeks for pleasure with her. "Hence we deduce a third consequence from the
different constitutions of the sexes, which is that the strongest should be
master in appearance, and be dependent, in fact, on the weakest, and that not
from any frivolous practice of gallantry or vanity of protectorship, but from
an invariable law of nature, which, furnishing woman with a greater facility to
excite desires than she has given man to satisfy them, makes the latter
dependent on the good pleasure of the former, and compels him to endeavour to
please in his turn, in order to obtain her consent that he should be strongest.2
On these occasions the most delightful circumstance a man finds in his victory
is to doubt whether it was the woman's weakness that yielded to his superior
strength, or whether her inclinations spoke in his favour; the females are also
generally artful enough to leave this matter in doubt. The understanding of
women answers in this respect perfectly to their constitution. So far from
being ashamed of their weakness, they glory in it; their tender muscles make no
resistance; they affect to be incapable of lifting the smallest burdens, and
would blush to be thought robust and strong. To what purpose is all this? Not
merely for the sake of appearing delicate, but through an artful precaution. It
is thus they provide an excuse beforehand, and a right to be feeble when they
think it expedient." I have quoted this passage lest my readers should
suspect that I warped the author's reasoning to support my own arguments. I
have already asserted that in educating women these fundamental principles lead
to a system of cunning and lasciviousness. Supposing woman to have been formed only to please,
and be subject to man, the conclusion is just. She ought to sacrifice every
other consideration to render herself agreeable to him, and let this brutal
desire of self-preservation be the grand spring of all her actions, when it is
proved to be the iron bed of fate, to fit which her character should be
stretched or contracted, regardless of all moral or physical distinctions. But
if, as I think, may be demonstrated, the purposes of even this life, viewing
the whole, be subverted by practical rules built upon this ignoble base, I may
be allowed to doubt whether woman were created for man; and though the cry of
irreligion, or even atheism, be raised against me, I will simply declare that
were an angel from Heaven to tell me that Moses' beautiful poetical cosmogony,
and the account of the fall of man, were literally true, I could not believe
what my reason told me was derogatory to the character of the Supreme Being;
and, having no fear of the devil before mine eyes, I venture to call this a
suggestion of reason, instead of resting my weakness on the broad shoulders of
the first seducer of my frail sex. "It being once demonstrated," continues
Rousseau, "that man and woman are not, nor ought to be, constituted alike
in temperament and character, it follows, of course, that they should not be
educated in the same manner. In pursuing the directions of nature, they ought,
indeed, to act in concert, but they should not be engaged in the same
employments; the end of their pursuits should be the same, but the means they
should take to accomplish them, and, of consequence, their tastes and
inclinations, should be different .
"Whether I consider the peculiar destination of
the sex, observe their inclinations, or remark their duties, all things equally
concur to point out the peculiar method of education best adapted to them.
Woman and man were made for each other, but their mutual dependence is not the
same. The men depend on the women only on account of their desires; the women
on the men both on account of their desires and their necessities. We could
subsist better without them than they without us.
"For this reason the education of the women
should be always relative to the men. To please, to be useful to us, to make us
love and esteem them, to educate us when young, and take care of us when grown
up, to advise, to console us, to render our lives easy and agreeable these
are the duties of women at all times, and what they should be taught in their
infancy. So long as we fail to recur to this principle, we run wide of the
mark, and all the precepts which are given them contribute neither to their
happiness nor our own. . . . . . "Girls are from their earliest infancy fond of
dress. Not content with being pretty, they are desirous of being thought so. We
see, by all their little airs, that this thought engages their attention; and
they are hardly capable of understanding what is said to them, before they are
to be governed by talking to them of what people will think of their behaviour.
The same motive, however, indiscreetly made use of with boys, has not the same
effect. Provided they are let pursue their amusements at pleasure, they care
very little what people think of them. Time and pains are necessary to subject
boys to this motive. "Whencesoever girls derive this first lesson, it
is a very good one. As the body is born, in a manner, before the soul, our
first concern should be to cultivate the former; this order is common to both
sexes, but the object of that cultivation is different. In the one sex it is
the development of corporeal powers; in the other, that of personal charms. Not
that either the quality of strength or beauty ought to be confined exclusively
to one sex, but only that the order of the cultivation of both is in that
respect reversed. Women certainly require as much strength as to enable them to
move and act gracefully, and men as much address as to qualify them to act with
ease. . . . . . "Children of both sexes have a great many
amusements in common; and so they ought; have they not also many such when they
are grown up? Each sex has also its peculiar taste to distinguish in this
particular. Boys love sports of noise and activity; to beat the drum, to whip
the top, and to drag about their little carts: girls, on the other hand, are
fonder of things of show and ornament; such as mirrors, trinkets, and dolls:
the doll is the peculiar amusement of the females; from whence we see their
taste plainly adapted to their destination. The physical part of the art of
pleasing lies in dress; and this is all which children are capacitated to
cultivate of that art. . . . . . "Here then we see a primary propensity firmly
established, which you need only to pursue and regulate. The little creature
will doubtless be very desirous to know how to dress up her doll, to make its
sleeve-knots, its flounces, its head-dress, etc., she is obliged to have so
much recourse to the people about her, for their assistance in these articles,
that it would be much more agreeable to her to owe them all to her own
industry. Hence we have a good reason for the first lessons that are usually
taught these young females: in which we do not appear to be setting them a
task, but obliging them, by instructing them in what is immediately useful to
themselves. And, in fact, almost all of them learn with reluctance to read and
write; but very readily apply themselves to the use of their needles. They
imagine themselves already grown up, and think with pleasure that such
qualifications will enable them to decorate themselves." This is certainly
only an education of the body; but Rousseau is not the only man who has
indirectly said that merely the person of a young woman, without any mind,
unless animal spirits come under that description, is very pleasing. To render
it weak, and what some may call beautiful, the understanding is neglected, and
girls forced to sit still, play with dolls and listen to foolish conversations;
the effect of habit is insisted upon as an undoubted indication of nature. I
know it was Rousseau's opinion that the first years of youth should be employed
to form the body, though in educating Emilius he deviates from this plan; yet,
the difference between strengthening the body, on which strength of mind in a
great measure depends, and only giving it an easy motion, is very wide. Rousseau's observations, it is proper to remark, were
made in a country where the art of pleasing was refined only to extract the
grossness of vice. He did not go back to nature, or his ruling appetite
disturbed the operations of reason, else he would not have drawn these crude
inferences. In France boys and girls, particularly the latter,
are only educated to please, to manage their persons, and regulate the exterior
behaviour; and their minds are corrupted, at a very early age, by the worldly
and pious cautions they receive to guard them against immodesty. I speak of
past times. The very confessions which mere children were obliged to make, and
the questions asked by the holy men, I assert these facts on good authority,
were sufficient to impress a sexual character; and the education of society was
a school of coquetry and art. At the age of ten or eleven; nay, often much
sooner, girls began to coquet, and talked, unreproved, of establishing
themselves in the world by marriage. In short, they were treated like women, almost from
their very birth, and compliments were listened to instead of instruction.
These weakening the mind, Nature was supposed to have acted like a step-mother,
when she formed this afterthought of creation. Not allowing them understanding, however, it was but
consistent to subject them to authority independent of reason; and to prepare
them for this subjection, he gives the following advice: "Girls ought to be active and diligent; nor is
that all; they should also be early subjected to restraint. This misfortune, if
it really be one, is inseparable from their sex; nor do they ever throw it off
but to suffer more cruel evils. They must be subject, all their lives, to the
most constant and severe restraint, which is that of decorum: it is, therefore,
necessary to accustom them early to such confinement, that it may not
afterwards cost them too dear; and to the suppression of their caprices, that
they may the more readily submit to the will of others. If, indeed, they be
fond of being always at work, they should be sometimes compelled to lay it
aside. Dissipation, levity, and inconstancy, are faults that readily spring up
from their first propensities, when corrupted or perverted by too much
indulgence. To prevent this abuse, we should teach them, above all things, to
lay a due restraint on themselves. The life of a modest woman is reduced, by
our absurd institutions, to a perpetual conflict with herself: not but it is
just that this sex should partake of the sufferings which arise from those
evils it hath caused us." And why is the life of a modest woman a perpetual
conflict? I should answer, that this very system of education makes it so.
Modesty, temperance, and self-denial, are the sober offspring of reason; but
when sensibility is nurtured at the expense of the understanding, such weak
beings must be restrained by arbitrary means, and be subjected to continual
conflicts; but give their activity of mind a wider range, and nobler passions
and motives will govern their appetites and sentiments. "The common attachment and regard of a mother,
nay, mere habit, will make her beloved by her children, if she do nothing to
incur their hate. Even the constraint she lays them under, if well directed,
will increase their affection, instead of lessening it; because a state of
dependence being natural to the sex, they perceive themselves formed for
obedience." This is begging the question; for servitude not only
debases the individual, but its effects seem to be transmitted to posterity.
Considering the length of time that women have been dependent, is it surprising
that some of them hunger in chains, and fawn like the spaniel? "These dogs,"
observes a naturalist, "at first kept their ears erect; but custom has
superseded nature, and a token of fear is become a beauty." "For the same reason," adds Rousseau,
"women have, or ought to have, but little liberty; they are apt to indulge
themselves excessively in what is allowed them. Addicted in everything to
extremes, they are even more transported at their diversions than boys." The answer to this is very simple. Slaves and mobs
have always indulged themselves in the same excesses, when once they broke
loose from authority. The bent bow recoils with violence, when the hand is
suddenly relaxed that forcibly held it; and sensibility, the plaything of
outward circumstances, must be subjected to authority, or moderated by reason. "There results," he continues, "from
this habitual restraint a tractableness which women have occasion for during
their whole lives, as they constantly remain either under subjection to the
men, or to the opinions of mankind; and are never permitted to set themselves
above those opinions. The first and most important qualification in a woman is
good nature or sweetness of temper: formed to obey a being so imperfect as man,
often full of vices, and always full of faults, she ought to learn betimes even
to suffer injustice, and to bear the insults of a husband without complaint; it
is not for his sake, but her own, that she should be of a mild disposition. The
perverseness and ill-nature of the women only serve to aggravate their own
misfortunes, and the misconduct of their husbands; they might plainly perceive
that such are not the arms by which they gain the superiority." Formed to live with such an imperfect being as man
they ought to learn from the exercise of their faculties the necessity of
forbearance: but all the sacred rights of humanity are violated by insisting on
blind obedience; or, the most sacred rights belong only to man. The being who patiently endures injustice, and
silently bears insults, will soon become unjust, or unable to discern right
from wrong. Besides, I deny the fact, this is not the true way to form or
meliorate the temper; for, as a sex, men have better tempers than women,
because they are occupied by pursuits that interest the head as well as the
heart; and the steadiness of the head gives a healthy temperature to the heart.
People of sensibility have seldom good tempers. The formation of the temper is
the cool work of reason, when, as life advances, she mixes with happy art,
jarring elements. I never knew a weak or ignorant person who had a good temper,
though that constitutional good humour, and that docility, which fear stamps on
the behaviour, often obtains the name. I say behaviour, for genuine meekness
never reached the heart or mind, unless as the effect of reflection; and that
simple restraint produces a number of peccant humours in domestic life, many
sensible men will allow, who find some of these gentle irritable creatures,
very troublesome companions. "Each sex," he further argues, "should
preserve its peculiar tone and manner; a meek husband may make a wife
impertinent; but mildness of disposition on the woman's side will always bring
a man back to reason, at least if he be not absolutely a brute, and will sooner
or later triumph over him." Perhaps the mildness of reason might sometimes have
this defect. but abject fear always inspires contempt; and tears are only
eloquent when they flow down fair cheeks. Of what materials can that heart be composed, which
can melt when insulted, and instead of revolting at injustice, kiss the rod? It
is unfair to infer that her virtue is built on narrow views and selfishness,
who can caress a man, with true feminine softness, the very moment when he
treats her tyrannically. Nature never dictated such insincerity; and, though
prudence of this sort be termed a virtue, morality becomes vague when any part
is supposed to rest on falsehood. These are mere expedients, and expedients are
only useful for the moment. Let the husband beware of trusting too implicitly to
this i servile obedience; for if his wife can with winning sweetness, caress
him when angry, and when she ought to be angry, unless contempt has stifled a
natural effervescence, she may do the same after parting with a lover. These
are all preparations for adultery; or, should the fear of the world, or of
hell, restrain her desire of pleasing other men, when she can no longer please
her husband, what substitute can be found by a being who was only formed, by
nature and art, to please man? what can make her amends for this privation, or
where is she to seek for a fresh employment? where find sufficient strength of
mind to determine to begin the search, when her habits are fixed, and vanity
has long ruled her chaotic mind? But this partial moralist recommends cunning
systematically and plausibly. "Daughters should be always submissive; their
mothers, however, should not be inexorable. To make a young person tractable,
she ought not to be made unhappy; to make her modest she ought not to be
rendered stupid. on the contrary, I should not be displeased at her being
permitted to use some art, not to elude punishment in case of disobedience, but
to exempt herself from the necessity of obeying. It is not necessary to make
her dependence burdensome, but only to let her feel it. Subtility is a talent
natural to the sex; and, as I am persuaded, all our natural inclinations are
right and good in themselves, I am of opinion this should be cultivated as well
as the others: it is requisite for us only to prevent its abuse." "Whatever is, is right," he then proceeds
triumphantly to infer. Granted; yet, perhaps, no aphorism ever contained a more
paradoxical assertion. It is a solemn truth with respect to God. He,
reverentially I speak, sees the whole at once, and saw its just proportions in
the womb of time; but man, who can only inspect disjointed parts, finds many
things wrong; and it is a part of the system, and therefore, right, that he
should endeavour to alter what appears to him to be so, even while he bows to
the wisdom of his Creator, and respects the darkness he labours to disperse. The inference that follows is just, supposing the
principle to be sound. "The superiority of address, peculiar to the female
sex, is a very equitable indemnification for their inferiority in point of
strength: without this, woman would not be the companion of marriage, but his
slave; it is by her superior art and ingenuity that she preserves her equality,
and governs him while she affects to obey. Woman has everything against her, as
well our faults, as her own timidity and weakness; she has nothing in her
favour, but her subtility and her beauty. Is it not very reasonable, therefore,
she should cultivate both?" Greatness of mind can never dwell with cunning,
or address; for I shall not boggle about words, when their direct signification
is insincerity and falsehood, but content myself with observing, that if any
class of mankind be so created that it must necessarily be educated by rules
not strictly deducible from truth, virtue is an affair of convention. How could
Rousseau dare to assert, after giving this advice, that in the grand end of
existence the object of both sexes should be the same, when he well knew that
the mind, formed by its pursuits, is expanded by great views swallowing up
little ones, or that it becomes itself little? Men have superior strength of body; but were it not
for mistaken notions of beauty, women would acquire sufficient to enable them
to earn their own subsistence, the true definition of independence; and to bear
those bodily inconveniences and exertions that are requisite to strengthen the
mind. Let us then, by being allowed to take the same exercise as boys, not only
during infancy, but youth, arrive at perfection of body, that we may know how
far the natural superiority of man extends. For what reason or virtue can be
expected from a creature when the seed-time of life is neglected? None; did not
the winds of heaven casually scatter many useful seeds in fallow ground." Beauty cannot be acquired by dress, and coquetry is
an art not so early and speedily attained. While girls are yet young, however,
they are in a capacity to study agreeable gesture, a pleasing modulation of
voice, an easy carriage and behaviour; as well as to take the advantage of
gracefully looks and attitudes to time, place, and occasion. Their application,
therefore, should not be solely confined to the arts of industry and the
needle, when they come to display other talents, whose utility is already
apparent. "For my part, I would have a young Englishwoman
cultivate her agreeable talents, in order to please her future husband, with as
much care and assiduity as a young Circassian cultivates hers, to fit her for
the harem of an Eastern bashaw. To render women completely insignificant, he adds:
"The tongues of women are very voluble; they speak earlier, more readily,
and more agreeably, than the men; they are accused also of speaking much more:
but so it ought to be, and I should be very ready to convert this reproach into
a compliment; their lips and eyes have the same activity, and for the same
reason. A man speaks of what he knows, a woman of what pleases her; the one
requires knowledge, the other taste; the principal object of a man's discourse
should be what is useful, that of a woman's what is agreeable. There ought to
be nothing in common between their different conversation but truth. "We ought not, therefore, to restrain the
prattle of girls, in the same manner as we should that of boys, with that
severe question, To what purpose are you talking? but by another, which is no
less difficult to answer, How will your discourse be received? In infancy,
while they are as yet incapable to discern good from evil, they ought to
observe it, as a law never to say anything disagreeable to those whom they are
speaking to. What will render the practice of this rule also the more difficult
is, that it must ever be subordinate to the former, of never speaking falsely
or telling an untruth." To govern the tongue in this manner must require
great address indeed, and it is too much practised both by men and women. out
of the abundance ;)f the heart how few speak! So few that I, who love
simplicity, would gladly give up politeness for a quarter of the virtue that
has been sacrificed to an equivocal quality which at best should only be the
polish of virtue. But, to complete the sketch. "It is easy to be
conceived, that if male children be not in a capacity to form any true notions
of religion, those ideas must be greatly above the conception of the females:
it is for this very reason, I would begin to speak to them the earlier on this
subject; for if we were to wait till they were in a capacity to discuss
methodically such profound questions, we should run a risk of never speaking to
them on this subject as long as they lived. Reason in women is a practical
reason, capacitating them artfully to discover the means of attaining a known
end, but which would never enable them to discover that end itself. The social
relations of the sexes are indeed truly admirable: from their union there
results a moral person, of which woman may be termed the eyes, and man the
hand, with this dependence on each other, that it is from the man that the
woman is to learn what she is to see, and it is of the woman that man is to
learn what he ought to do. If woman could recur to the first principles of
things as well as man, and man was capacitated to enter into their minutiae as
well as woman, always independent of each other, they would live in perpetual
discord, and their union could not subsist. But in the present harmony which
naturally subsists between them, their different faculties tend to one common
end: it is difficult to say which of them conduces the most to it: each follows
the impulse of the other; each is obedient, and both are masters. "As the conduct of a woman is subservient to the
public opinion, her faith in matters of religion should, for that very reason,
be subject to authority. Every daughter ought to be of the same religion as her
mother, and every wife to be of the same religion as her husband: for, though
such religion should be false, that docility which induces the mother and
daughter to submit to the order of nature, takes away, in the sight of God, the
criminality of their error.3 As they are not in a capacity to judge
for themselves, they ought to abide by the decision of their fathers and
husbands as confidently as by that of the Church. "As authority ought to regulate the religion of
the women, it is not so needful to explain to them the reasons for their
belief, as to lay down precisely the tenets they are to believe: for the creed,
which presents only obscure ideas to the mind, is the source of fanaticism; and
that which presents absurdities, leads to infidelity." Absolute, uncontroverted authority, it seems, must
subsist somewhere: but is not this a direct and exclusive appropriation of
reason? The rights of humanity have been thus confined to the male line from
Adam downwards. Rousseau would carry his male aristocracy still
further, he insinuates, that he should not blame those, who contend _ leaving
woman in a state of the most profound ignorance, if it were not necessary in
order to preserve her chastity and justify the man's choice, in the eyes of the
world, to give her a little knowledge of men, and the customs produced by human
passions; else she might propagate at home without being rendered less
voluptuous and innocent by the exercise of her understanding: excepting,
indeed, during the first year of marriage, when she might employ it to dress
like Sophia. "Her dress is extremely modest in appearance, and yet very
coquettish in fact: she does not make a display of her charms, she conceals
them; but in concealing them, she knows how to affect your imagination. Everyone
who sees her will say, There is a modest and discreet girl; but while you are
near her, your eyes and affections wander all over her person, so that you
cannot withdraw them; and you would conclude, that every part of her dress,
simple as it seems, was only put in its proper order to be taken to pieces by
the imagination." Is this modesty? Is this a preparation for immortality?
Again, What opinion are we to form of a system of education, when the author
says of his heroine, "that with her, doing things well, is but a secondary
concern; her principal concern is to do them neatly." Secondary, in fact, are all her respecting religion,
he makes her accustomed to submission "Your husband will instruct you in
good time." After thus cramping a woman's mind, if, in order to
keep it fair, he have not made it quite reflect, that a reflecting man may when
he is tired of caressing her. What has she to reflect about who must obey? and
would it not be a refinement on cruelty only to open her mind to make the
darkness and misery of her fate visible? Yet these are his sensible remarks;
how consistent with what I have already been obliged to quote, to give a fair
view of the subject, the reader may determine. "They who pass their whole lives in working for
their daily bread, have no ideas beyond their business or their interest, and
all their understanding seems to lie in their fingers' ends. This ignorance is
neither prejudicial to their integrity nor their morals; it is often of service
to them. Sometimes, by means of reflection, we are led to compound with our
duty, and we conclude by substituting a jargon of words in the room of things.
our own conscience is the most enlightened philosopher. There is no need to be
acquainted with Tully's offices, to make a man of probity; and perhaps the most
virtuous woman in the world is the least acquainted with the definition of
virtue. But it is no less true, that an improved understanding only can render
society agreeable; and it is a melancholy thing for a father of a family, who
is fond of home, to be obliged to be always wrapped up in himself, and to have
nobody about him to whom he can impart his sentiments. "Besides, how should a woman void of reflection
be capable of educating her children? How should she discern what is proper for
them? How should she incline them to those virtues she is unacquainted with, or
to that merit of which she has no idea? She can only soothe or chide them;
render them insolent or timid; she will make them formal coxcombs, or ignorant
blockheads, but will never make these sensible or amiable." How indeed
should she, when her husband is not always at hand to lend her his reason? when
they both together make but one moral being. A blind will, "eyes without
hands," would go a very little way; and perchance his abstract reason,
that should concentrate the scattered beams of her practical reason, may be
employed in judging of the flavour of wine, descanting on the sauces most
proper for turtle; or, more profoundly intent at a card-table, he may be generalising
his ideas as he bets away his fortune, leaving all the minutiae of education to
his helpmate, or to chance. But, granting that woman ought to be beautiful,
innocent, and silly, to render her a more alluring and indulgent companion; what is her understanding sacrificed for?
And why is all this preparation necessary only, according to Rousseau's own
account, to make her the mistress of her husband, a very short time? For no man
ever insisted more on the transient nature of love. Thus speaks the philosopher,
"Sensual pleasures are transient. The habitual state of the affections
always loses by their gratification. The imagination, which decks the object of
our desires, is lost in fruition. Excepting the Supreme Being, who is
self-existent, there is nothing beautiful but what is ideal." But he returns to his unintelligible paradoxes again,
when he thus addresses Sophia "Emilius, in becoming your husband, is
become your master, and claims your obedience. Such is the order of nature.
When a man is married, however, to such a wife as Sophia, it is proper he
should be directed by her. This is also agreeable to the order of nature. It
is, therefore, to give you as much authority over his heart as his sex gives
him over your person that I have made you the arbiter of his pleasures. It may
cost you, perhaps, some disagreeable self-denial; but you will be certain of
maintaining your empire over him, if you can preserve it over shows me that
this difficult attempt does not surpass your courage. "Would you have your husband constantly at your
feet, keep him at some distance from your person. You will long maintain the
authority in love, if you know but how to render your favours rare and
valuable. It is thus you may employ even the arts of coquetry in the service of
virtue, and those of love in that of reason." I shall close my extracts
with a just description of a comfortable couple: "And yet you must not
imagine that even such management will always suffice. Whatever precaution be
taken, enjoyment will by degrees take off the edge of passion. But when love
hath lasted as long as possible, a pleasing habitude supplies its place, and
the attachment of a mutual confidence succeeds to the transports of passion.
Children often form a more agreeable and permanent connection between married
people then even love itself. When you cease to be the mistress of Emilius, you
will continue to be his wife and friend you will be the mother of his
children."4 Children, he truly observes, form a much more
permanent connection between married people than love. Beauty, he declares,
will not be valued, or even seen, after a couple have lived six months
together; artificial graces and coquetry will likewise pall on the senses. Why,
then, does he say that a girl should be educated for her husband with the same
care as for an Eastern harem? I now appeal from the reveries of fancy and refined
licentiousness to the good sense of mankind, whether, if the object of
education be to prepare women to become chaste wives and sensible mothers, the
method so plausibly recommended in the foregoing sketch be the one best
calculated to produce those ends? Will it be allowed that the surest way to
make a wife chaste is to teach her to practise the wanton arts of a mistress,
termed virtuous coquetry, by the sensualist who can no longer relish the
artless charms of sincerity, or taste the pleasure arising from a tender
intimacy, when confidence is unchecked by suspicion, and rendered interesting
by sense? The man who can be contented to live with a pretty,
useful companion, without a mind, has lost in voluptuous gratifications a taste
for more refined enjoyments; he has never felt the calm satisfaction that
refreshes the parched heart like the silent dew of heaven of being beloved by
one who could understand him. In the society of his wife he is still alone,
unless when the man is sunk in the brute. "The charm of life," says a
grave philosophical reasoner, is "sympathy; nothing pleases us more than
to observe in other men a fellow-feeling with all the emotions of our own
breast" But according to the tenor of reasoning by which
women are kept from the tree of knowledge, the important years of youth, the
usefulness of age, and the rational hopes of futurity, are all to be sacrificed
to render women an object of desire for a short time. Besides, how could
Rousseau expect them to be virtuous and constant when reason is neither allowed
to be the foundation of their virtue, nor truth the object of their inquiries? But all Rousseau's errors in reasoning arose from
sensibility, and sensibility to their charms women are very ready to forgive.
When he should have reasoned he became impassioned, and reflection inflamed his
imagination instead of enlightening his understanding. Even his virtues also
led him farther astray; for, born with a warm constitution and lively fancy,
nature carried him toward the other sex with such eager fondness that he soon
became lascivious. Had he given way to these desires, the fire would have
extinguished itself in a natural manner, but virtue, and a romantic kind of
delicacy, made him practise self-denial; yet when fear, delicacy, or virtue
restrained him, he debauched his imagination, and reflecting on the sensations
to which fancy gave force, he traced them in the most glowing colours, and sunk
them deep into his soul. He then sought for solitude, not to sleep with the
man of nature, or calmly investigate the causes of things under the shade where
Sir Isaac Newton indulged contemplation, but merely to indulge his feelings.
And so warmly has he painted what he forcibly felt, that interesting the heart
and inflaming the imagination of his readers, in proportion to the strength of
their fancy, they imagine that their understanding is convinced when they only
sympathise with a poetic writer, who skilfully exhibits the objects of sense
most voluptuously shadowed or gracefully veiled; and thus making us feel whilst
dreaming that we reason, erroneous conclusions are left in the mind. Why was Rousseau's life divided between ecstasy and
misery? Can my other answer be given than this, that the effervescence of his
imagination produced both; but had his fancy been allowed to cool, it is
possible that he might have acquired more strength of mind. Still, if the
purpose of life be to educate the intellectual part of man, all-with respect to
him was right; yet had not death led to a nobler scene of action, it is
probable that he would have enjoyed more equal happiness on earth, and have
felt the calm sensations of the man of nature, instead of being prepared for
another stage of existence by nourishing the passions which agitate the
civilised man. But peace to his manes! I war not with his ashes, but
his opinions. I war only with the sensibility that led him to degrade woman by
making her the slave of love. " Cursed vassalage, First idolised till love's hot fire be o'er, Then slaves to those who courted us before."
DRYDEN. The pernicious tendency of those books, in which the
writers insidiously degrade the sex whilst they are prostrate before their
personal charms, cannot be too often or too severely exposed. Let us, my dear contemporaries, arise above such
narrow prejudices. If wisdom be desirable on its own account, if virtue, to
deserve the name, must be founded on knowledge, let us endeavour to strengthen
our minds by reflection till our heads become a balance for our hearts; let us
not confine all our thoughts to the petty occurrences of the day, or our
knowledge to an acquaintance with our lovers' or husbands' hearts, but let the
practice of every duty be subordinate to the grand one of improving our minds,
and preparing our affections for a more exalted state. Beware, then, my friends, of suffering the heart to
be moved by every trivial incident; the reed is shaken by a breeze, and
annually dies, but the oak stands firm, and for ages braves the storm. Were we, indeed, only created to flutter our hour out
and die why let us then indulge sensibility, and laugh at the severity of
reason. Yet, alas! even then we should want strength of body and mind, and life
would be lost in feverish pleasures or wearisome languor. But the system of Education, which I earnestly wish
to see exploded, seems to presuppose what ought never to be taken for granted,
that virtue shields us from the casualties of life; and that Fortune, slipping
off her bandage, will smile on a well-educated female, and bring in her hand an
Emilius or a Telemachus. Whilst, on the contrary, the reward which Virtue
promises to her votaries is confined, it seems clear, to their own bosoms; and
often must they contend with the most vexatious worldly cares, and bear with
the vices and humours of relations for whom they can never feel a friendship. There have been many women in the world who, instead
of being supported by the reason and virtue of their fathers and brothers, have
strengthened their own minds by struggling with their vices and follies; yet
have never met with a hero, in the shape of a husband; who, paying the debt
that mankind owed them, might chance to bring back their reason to its natural
dependent state, and restore the usurped prerogative, of rising above opinion,
to man. SECTION II Dr. Fordyce's sermons have long made a part of a
young woman's library; nay, girls at school are allowed to read them but I
should instantly dismiss them from my pupil's if I wished to strengthen her
understanding, by leading her to form sound principles on a broad basis; or,
were I only anxious to cultivate her taste, though they must be allowed to
contain many sensible observations. Dr. Fordyce may have had a very laudable end in view;
but these discourses are written in such an affected style, that were it only
on that account, and had I nothing to object against his mellifluous precepts,
I should not allow girls to peruse them, unless I designed to hunt every spark
of nature out of their composition, melting every human quality into female
meekness and artificial grace. I say artificial, for true grace arises from
some kind of independence of mind. Children, careless of pleasing, and only anxious to
amuse themselves, are often very graceful; and the nobility who have mostly
lived with inferiors, and always had the command of money, acquire a graceful
ease of deportment, which should rather be termed habitual grace of body, than
that superior gracefulness which is truly the expression of the mind. This
mental grace, not noticed by vulgar eyes, often flashes across a rough
countenance, and irradiating every feature, shows simplicity and independence
of mind. It is then we read characters of immortality in the eye, and see the
soul in every gesture, though when at rest, neither the face nor limbs may have
much beauty to recommend them; or the behaviour, anything peculiar to attract
universal attention. The mass of mankind, however, look for more tangible
beauty; yet simplicity is, in general, admired, when people do not consider
what they admire? and can there be simplicity without sincerity? But, to have
done with remarks that are in some measure desultory, though naturally excited
by the subject. In declamatory periods Dr. Fordyce spins out
Rousseau's eloquence; and in most sentimental rant, details his opinions
respecting the female character, and the behaviour which woman ought to assume
to render her lovely. He shall speak for himself, for thus he makes Nature
address man. "Behold these smiling innocents, whom I have graced with my
fairest gifts, and committed to your protection; behold them with love and
respect; treat them with tenderness and honour. They are timid and want to be
defended. They are frail; oh do not take advantage of their weakness! Let their
fears and blushes endear them. Let their confidence in you never be abused. But
is it possible, that any of you can be such barbarians, so supremely wicked, as
to abuse it? Can you find in your hearts5 to despoil the gentle,
trusting creatures of their treasure, or do anything to strip them of their
native robe of virtue? Curst be the impious hand that would dare to violate the
unblemished form of chastity! Thou wretch! thou ruffian! forbear; nor venture
to provoke Heaven's fiercest vengeance." I know not any comment that can
be made seriously on this curious passage, and I could produce many similar
ones; and some, so very sentimental, that I have heard rational men use the
word indecent, when they mentioned them with disgust. Throughout there is a display of cold artificial
feelings, and that parade of sensibility which boys and girls should be taught
to despise as the sure mark of a little vain mind. Florid appeals are made to
Heaven, and to the beauteous innocents, the fairest images of Heaven here
below, whilst sober sense is left far behind. This is not the language of the
heart, nor will it ever reach it, though the ear may be tickled. I shall be told, perhaps, that the public have been
pleased with these volumes. True and Hervey's Meditations are read, though he
equally sinned against sense and taste. I particularly object to the love-like phrases of
pumped up passion, which are everywhere interspersed. If women be ever allowed
to walk without leading-strings, why must they be cajoled into virtue by artful
flattery and sexual compliments? Speak to them the language of truth and
soberness, and away with the lullaby strains of condescending endearment! Let
them be taught to respect themselves as rational creatures, and not led to have
a passion for their own insipid persons. It moves my gall to hear a preacher
descanting on dress and needlework; and still more, to hear him address the
British fair, the fairest of the fair, as if they had only feelings. Even recommending piety he uses the following
argument. "Never, perhaps, does a fine woman strike more deeply, than
when, composed into pious recollection, and possessed with the noblest
considerations, she assumes, without knowing it, superior dignity and new
graces; so that the beauties of holiness seem to radiate about her, and the
bystanders are almost reduced to fancy her already worshipping amongst her
kindred angels!" Why are women to be thus bred up with a desire of
conquest? the very word, used in this sense, gives me a sickly qualm! Do
religion and virtue offer no stronger motives, no brighter reward? Must they
always be debased by being made to consider the sex of their companions? Must
they be taught always to be pleasing? And when levelling their small artillery
at the heart of man, is it necessary to tell them that a little sense is
sufficient to render their attention incredibly soothing? "As a small
degree of knowledge entertains in a woman, so from a woman, though for a
different reason, a small expression of kindness delights, particularly if she
have beauty!" I should have supposed for the same reason. Why are girls to be told that they resemble angels;
but to sink them below women? Or, that a gentle innocent female is an object
that comes nearer to the idea which we have formed of angels than any other.
Yet they are told, at the same time, that they are only like angels when they
are young and beautiful; consequently, it is their persons, not their virtues,
that procure them this homage. Idle empty words! What can such delusive flattery
lead to, but vanity and folly? The lover, it is true, has a poetical licence to
exalt his mistress; his reason is the bubble of his passion, and he does not
utter a falsehood when he borrows the language of adoration. His imagination
may raise the idol of his heart, unblamed, above humanity; and happy would it
be for women, if they were only flattered by the men who loved them; I mean,
who love the individual, not the sex; but should a grave preacher interlard his
discourses with such fooleries? In sermons or novels, however, voluptuousness is
always true to its text. Men are allowed by moralists to cultivate, as Nature
directs, different qualities, and assume the different characters, that the
same passions, modified almost to infinity, give to each individual. A virtuous
man may have a choleric or a sanguine constitution, be gay or grave,
unreproved; be firm till he is almost overbearing, or, weakly submissive, have
no will or opinion of his own; but all women are to be levelled, by meekness
and docility, into one character of yielding softness and gentle compliance. I will use the preacher's own words. "Let it be
observed, that in your sex manly exercises are never graceful; that in them a
tone and figure, as well as an air and deportment, of the masculine kind, are
always forbidding; and that men of sensibility desire in every woman soft
features, and a flowing voice, a form, not robust, and demeanour delicate and
gentle." Is not the following portrait the portrait of a
house slave? "I am astonished at the folly of many women, who are still
reproaching their husbands for leaving them alone, for preferring this or that
company to theirs, for treating them with this and the other mark of disregard
or indifference; when, to speak the truth, they have themselves in a great
measure to blame. Not that I would justify the men in anything wrong on their
part. But had you behaved to them with more respectful observance, and a more
equal tenderness; studying their humours, overlooking their mistakes,
submitting to their opinions in matters indifferent, passing by little
instances of unevenness, caprice, or passion, giving soft answers to hasty
words, complaining as seldom as possible, and making it your daily care to
relieve their anxieties and prevent their wishes, to enliven the hour of
dullness, and call up the ideas of felicity: had you pursued this conduct, I
doubt not but you would have maintained and even increased their esteem, so far
as to have secured every degree of influence that could conduce to their
virtue, or your mutual satisfaction; and your house might at this day have been
the abode of domestic bliss "Such a woman ought to be an angel or she is
an ass-for I discern not a trace of the human character, neither reason nor
passion in this domestic drudge, whose being is absorbed in that of a tyrant's.
Still Dr. Fordyce must have very little acquaintance
with the human heart, if he really supposed that such conduct would bring back
wandering love, instead of exciting contempt. No, beauty, gentleness, etc.,
etc., may gain a heart; but esteem, the only lasting affection, can alone be
obtained by virtue supported by reason. It is respect for the understanding
that keeps alive tenderness for the person. As these volumes are so frequently put into the hands
of young people, I have taken more notice of them than, strictly speaking, they
deserve; but as they have contributed to vitiate the taste, and enervate the
understanding of many of my fellow-creatures, I could not pass them silently
over. SECTION III Such paternal solicitude pervades Dr. Gregory's
Legacy to his Daughters, that I enter on the task of criticism with affectionate
respect; but as this little volume has many attractions to recommend it to the
notice of the most respectable part of my sex, I cannot silently pass over
arguments that so speciously support opinions which, I think, have had the most
baneful effect on the morals and manners of the female world. His easy familiar style is particularly suited to the
tenor of his advice, and the melancholy tenderness which his respect for the
memory of a beloved wife, diffuses through the whole work, renders it very
interesting; yet there is a degree of concise elegance conspicuous in many
passages that disturbs this sympathy; and we pop on the author, when we only
expected to meet the father. Besides, having two objects in view, he seldom
adhered steadily to either; for wishing to make his daughters amiable, and
fearing lest unhappiness should only be the consequence, of instilling
sentiments that might draw them out of the track of common life without
enabling them to act with consonant independence and dignity, he checks the
natural flow of his thoughts, and neither advises one thing nor the other. In the preface he tells them a mournful truth,
"that they will hear, at least once in their lives, the genuine sentiments
of a man who has no interest in deceiving them." Hapless woman! what can be expected from thee when
the beings on whom thou art said naturally to depend for reason and support,
have all an interest in deceiving thee! This is the root of the evil that has
shed a corroding mildew on all thy virtues; and blighting in the bud thy
opening faculties, has rendered thee the weak thing thou art! It is this
separate interest this insidious state of warfare, that undermines morality,
and divides mankind! If love have made some women wretched, how many more
has the cold unmeaning intercourse of gallantry rendered vain and useless! yet
this heartless attention to the sex is reckoned so manly, so polite that, till
society is very differently organised, I fear, this vestige of gothic manners
will not be done away by a more reasonable and affectionate mode of conduct.
Besides, to strip it of its imaginary dignity, I must observe, that in the most
uncivilised European states this lip-service prevails in a very great degree,
accompanied with extreme dissoluteness of morals. In Portugal, the country that
I particularly allude to, it takes place of the most serious moral obligations!
for a man is seldom assassinated when in the company of a woman. The savage
hand of rapine is unnerved by this chivalrous spirit; and, if the stroke of
vengeance cannot be stayed, the lady is entreated to pardon the rudeness and
depart in peace, though sprinkled, perhaps, with her husband's or brother's
blood. I shall pass over his strictures on religion, because
I mean to discuss that subject in a separate chapter. The remarks relative to behaviour, though many of
them very sensible, I entirely disapprove of, because it appears to me to be
beginning, as it were, at the wrong end. A cultivated understanding, and an
affectionate heart, will never want starched rules of decorum-something more
substantial than seemliness will be the result; and, without understanding the
behaviour here recommended, would be rank affectation. Decorum, indeed, is the
one thing needful! decorum is to supplant nature, and banish all simplicity
and variety of character out of the female world. Yet what good end can all
this superficial counsel produce? It is, however, much easier to point out this
or that mode of behaviour, than to set the reason to work; but, when the mind
has been stored with useful knowledge, and strengthened by being employed, the
regulation of the behaviour may safely be left to its guidance. Why, for instance, should the following caution be
given when art of every kind must contaminate the mind; and why entangle the
grand motives of action, which reason and religion equally combine to enforce,
with pitiful worldly shifts and sleight-of-hand tricks to gain the applause of
gaping tasteless fools? "Be even cautious in displaying your good sense.6
It will be thought you assume a superiority over the rest of the company. But
if you happen to have any learning, keep it a profound secret, especially from
the men, who generally look with a jealous and malignant eye on a woman of
great parts, and a cultivated understanding." If men of real merit, as he
afterwards observes, be superior to this meanness, where is the necessity that
the behaviour of the whole sex should be modulated to please fools, or men, who
having little claim to respect as individuals, choose to keep close in their
phalanx. Men, indeed, who insist on their common superiority, having only this
sexual superiority, are certainly very excusable. There would be no end to rules for behaviour, if it
be proper always to adopt the tone of the company; for thus, for ever varying
the key, a flat would often pass for a natural note. Surely it would have been wiser to have advised women
to improve themselves till they rose above the fumes of vanity; and then to let
the public opinion come round for where are rules of accommodation to stop?
The narrow path of truth and virtue inclines neither to the right nor left it
is a straightforward business, and they who are earnestly pursuing their road,
may bound over many decorous prejudices, without leaving modesty behind. Make
the heart clean, and give the head employment, and I will venture to predict
that there will be nothing offensive in the behaviour. The air of fashion, which many young people are so
eager to attain, always strikes me like the studied attitudes of some modern
pictures, copied with tasteless servility after the antiques; the soul is left
out, and none of the parts are tied together by what may properly be termed
character. This varnish of fashion, which seldom sticks very close to sense,
may dazzle the weak; but leave nature to itself, and it will seldom disgust the
wise. Besides, when a woman has sufficient sense not to pretend to anything
which she does not understand in some degree, there is no need of determining
to hide her talents under a bushel. Let things take their natural course, and
all will be well. It is this system of dissimulation, throughout the
volume, that I despise. Women are always to seem to be this and that yet
virtue might apostrophise them, in the words of Hamlet Seems! I know not
seems! Have that within passeth show! Still the same tone occurs; for in another place,
after recommending, without sufficiently discriminating delicacy, he
adds,-"The men will complain of your reserve. They will assure you that a
franker behaviour would make you more amiable. But, trust me, they are not
sincere when they tell you so. I acknowledge that on some occasions it might
render you more agreeable as companions, but it would make you less amiable as
women: an important distinction, which many of your sex are not aware of."
This desire of being always women, is the very
consciousness that degrades the sex. Excepting with a lover, I must repeat with
emphasis, a former observation, it would be well if they were only agreeable
or rational companions. But in this respect his advice is even inconsistent
with a passage which I mean to quote with the most marked approbation. "The sentiment, that a woman may allow all
innocent freedoms, provided her virtue is secure, is both grossly indelicate
and dangerous, and has proved fatal to many of your sex." With this
opinion I perfectly coincide. A man, or a woman, of any feeling, must always
wish to convince a beloved object that it is the caresses of the individual,
not the sex, that are received and returned with pleasure; and, that the heart,
rather than the senses, is moved. Without this natural delicacy, love becomes a
selfish personal gratification that soon degrades the character. I carry this sentiment still further. Affection, when
love is out of the question, authorises many personal endearments, that
naturally flowing from an innocent heart, give life to the behaviour; but the
personal intercourse of appetite, gallantry, or vanity, is despicable. When a
man squeezes the hand of a pretty woman, handing her to a carriage, whom he has
never seen before, she will consider such an impertinent freedom in the light
of an insult, if she have any true delicacy, instead of being flattered by this
unmeaning homage to beauty. These are the privileges of friendship, or the
momentary homage which the heart pays to virtue, when it flashes suddenly on
the notice mere animal spirits have no claim to the kindnesses of affection. Wishing to feed the affections with what is now the
food of vanity, I would fain persuade my sex to act from simpler principles.
Let them merit love, and they will obtain it, though they may never be told
that "The power of a fine woman over the hearts of men, of men of the
finest parts, is even beyond what she conceives." I have already noticed the narrow cautions with
respect to duplicity, female softness, delicacy of constitution; for these are
the changes which he rings round without ceasing in a more decorous manner,
it is true, than Rousseau; but it all comes home to the same point, and whoever
is at the trouble to analyse these sentiments, will find the first principles
not quite so delicate as the superstructure. The subject of amusements is treated in too cursory a
manner; but with the same spirit. When I treat of friendship, love, and marriage, it
will be found that we materially differ in opinion; I shall not then forestall
what I have to observe on these important subjects; but confine my remarks to
the general tenor of them, to that cautious family prudence, to those confined
views of partial unenlightened affection, which exclude pleasure and
improvement, by vainly wishing to ward off sorrow and error, and by thus
guarding the heart and mind, destroy also all their energy. It is far better to
be often deceived than never to trust; to be disappointed in love than never to
love; to lose a husband's fondness than forfeit his esteem. Happy would it be for the world, and for individuals,
of course, if all this unavailing solicitude to attain worldly happiness, on a
confined plan, were turned into an anxious desire to improve the understanding.
"Wisdom is the principal thing: Therefore get wisdom; and with all thy
gettings get understanding." "How long, ye simple ones, will ye love
simplicity, and hate knowledge?" saith Wisdom to the daughters of men. SECTION IV I do not mean to allude to all the writers who have
written on the subject of female manners it would, in fact, be only beating
over the old ground, for they have, in general, written in the same strain; but
attacking the boasted prerogative of man the prerogative that may
emphatically be called the iron sceptre of tyranny, the original sin of
tyrants, I declare against all power built on prejudices, however hoary. If the submission demanded be founded on justice there
is no appealing to a higher power for God is justice itself. Let us then, as
children of the same parent, if not bastardised by being the younger born,
reason together, and learn to submit to the authority of Reason when her
voice is distinctly heard. But, if it proved, that this throne of prerogative
only rests on a chaotic mass of prejudices, that have no inherent principle of
order to keep them together, or on an elephant, tortoise, or even the mighty
shoulders of a son of the earth, they may escape, who dare to brave the
consequence, without any breach of duty, without sinning against the order of
things. Whilst reason raises man above the brutal herd, and
death is big with promises, they alone are subject to blind authority who have
no reliance on their own strength. They are free who will be free! 7 The being who can govern itself has nothing to fear
in life; but if anything be dearer than its own respect, the price must be paid
to the last farthing. Virtue, like everything valuable, must be loved for
herself alone; or she will not take up her abode with us. She will not impart
that peace, "which passeth understanding," when she is merely made
the stilts of reputation; and respected, with pharisaical exactness, because
"honesty is the best policy." That the plan of life which enables us to carry some
knowledge and virtue into another world, is the one best calculated to ensure
content in this, cannot be denied; yet few people act according to this
principle, though it be universally allowed that it admits not of dispute.
Present pleasure, or present power, carry before it these sober convictions;
and it is for the day, not for life, that man bargains with happiness. How few!
how very few! have sufficient foresight, or resolution, to endure a small
evil at the moment, to avoid a greater hereafter. Woman in particular, whose virtue8 is
built on mutable prejudices, seldom attains to this greatness of mind; so that,
becoming the slave of her own feelings, she is easily subjugated by those of
others. Thus degraded, her reason, her misty reason! is employed rather to
burnish than to snap her chains. Indignantly have I heard women argue in the same
track as men, and adopt the sentiments that brutalise them, with all the pertinacity
of ignorance. I must illustrate my assertion by a few examples.
Mrs. Piozzi, who often repeated by rote, what she did not understand, comes
forward with Johnsonian periods. "Seek not for happiness in singularity; and
dread a refinement of wisdom as-a deviation into folly." Thus she
dogmatically addresses a new married man; and to elucidate this pompous
exordium, she adds, "I said that the person of your lady would not grow
more pleasing to you, but pray let her never suspect that it grows less so: that
a woman will pardon an affront to her understanding much sooner than one to her
person, is well known; nor will any of us contradict the assertion. All our
attainments, all our arts, are employed to gain and keep the heart of man; and
what mortification can exceed the disappointment, if the end be not obtained?
There is no reproof however pointed, no punishment however severe, that a woman
of spirit will not prefer to neglect; and if she can endure it without
complaint, it only proves that she means to make herself amends by the
attention of others for the slights of her husband !" These are truly masculine sentiments. "All our
arts are employed to gain and keep the heart of man:" and what is the
inference? if her person, and was there ever a person, though formed with
Medicean symmetry, that was not slighted? be neglected, she will make herself
amends by endeavouring to please other men. Noble morality! But thus is the
understanding of the whole sex affronted, and their virtue deprived of the
common basis of virtue. A woman must know, that her person cannot be as
pleasing to her husband as it was to her lover, and if she be offended with him
for being a human creature, she may as well whine about the loss of his heart
as about any other foolish thing. And this very want of discernment or
unreasonable anger, proves that he could not change his fondness for her person
into affection for her virtues or respect for her understanding. Whilst women avow, and act up to such opinions, their
understandings, at least, deserve the contempt and obloquy that men, who never
insult their persons, have pointedly levelled at the female mind. And it is the
sentiments of these polite men, who do not wish to be encumbered with mind,
that vain women thoughtlessly adopt. Yet they should know, that insulted reason
alone can spread that sacred reserve about the person, which renders human
affections, for human affections have always some base alloy, as permanent as
is consistent with the grand end of existence the attainment of virtue. The Baroness de Stael speaks the same language as the
lady just cited, with more enthusiasm. Her eulogium on Rousseau was
accidentally put into my hands and her sentiments, the sentiments of too many
of my sex, may serve as the text for a few comments. "Though
Rousseau," she observes, "has endeavoured to prevent women from
interfering in public affairs, and acting a brilliant part in the theatre of
politics; yet in speaking of them, how much has he done it to their satisfaction!
If he wished to deprive them of some rights foreign to their sex, how has he
for ever restored to them all those to which it has a claim! And in attempting
to diminish their influence over the deliberations of men, how sacredly has he
established the empire they have over their happiness! In aiding them to
descend from an usurped throne, he has firmly seated them upon that to which
they were destined by nature; and though he be full of indignation against them
when they endeavour to resemble men, yet when they come before him with all the
charms, weaknesses, virtues, and errors of their sex, his respect for their
persons amounts almost to adoration." True! For never was there a
sensualist who paid more fervent adoration at the shrine of beauty. So devout,
indeed, was his respect for the person, that excepting the virtue of chastity,
for obvious reasons, he only wished to see it embellished by charms,
weaknesses, and errors. He was afraid lest the austerity of reason should
disturb the soft playfulness of love. The master wished to have a meretricious
slave to fondle, entirely dependent on his reason and bounty; he did not want a
companion, whom he should be compelled to esteem, or a friend to whom he could
confine the care of his children's education, should death deprive them of
their father, before he had fulfilled the sacred task. He denies woman reason,
shuts her out from knowledge, and turns her aside from truth; yet his pardon is
granted, because "he admits the passion of love." It would require
some ingenuity to show why women were to be under such an obligation to him for
thus admitting love; when it is clear that he admits it only for the relaxation
of men, and to perpetuate the species; but he talked with passion, and that
powerful spell worked on the sensibility of a young encomiast. "What
signifies it," pursues this rhapsodist, "to women, that his reason
disputes with them the empire, when his heart is devotedly theirs," It is
not empire, but equality, that they should contend for. Yet, if they only
wished to lengthen out their sway, they should not entirely trust to their
persons, for though beauty may gain a heart, it cannot keep it, even while the
beauty is in full bloom, unless the mind lend, at least, some graces. When women are once sufficiently enlightened to
discover their real interest, on a grand scale, they will, I am persuaded, be
very ready to resign all the prerogatives of love, that are not mutual,
speaking of them as lasting prerogatives, for the calm satisfaction of
friendship, and the tender confidence of habitual esteem. Before marriage they
will not assume any insolent airs, or afterwards abjectly submit; but
endeavouring to act like reasonable creatures, in both situations, they will
not be tumbled from a throne to a stool. Madame Genlis has written several entertaining books
for children; and her Letters on Education afford many useful hints, that
sensible parents will certainly avail themselves of; but her views are narrow,
and her prejudices as unreasonable as strong. I shall pass over her vehement argument in favour of
the eternity of future punishments, because I blush to think that a human being
should ever argue vehemently in such a cause, and only make a few remarks on
her absurd manner of making the parental authority supplant reason. For
everywhere does she inculcate not only blind submission to parents, but to the
opinion of the world.9 She tells a story of a young man engaged by his
father's express desire to a girl of fortune. Before the marriage could take
place she is deprived of her fortune, and thrown friendless on the world. The
father practises the most infamous arts to separate his son from her, and when
the son detects his villainy, and, following the dictates of honour, marries
the girl, nothing but misery ensues, because, forsooth! he married without his
father's consent. On what ground can religion or morality rest when justice is
thus set at defiance? With the same view she represents an accomplished young
woman, as ready to marry anybody that her mamma pleased to recommend; and, as
actually marrying the young man of her own choice, without feeling any emotions
of passion, because that a well-educated girl had not time to be in love. Is it
possible to have much respect for a system of education that thus insults
reason and nature? Many similar opinions occur in her writings, mixed
with sentiments that do honour to her head and heart. Yet so much superstition
is mixed with her religion, and so much worldly wisdom with her morality, that
I should not let a young person read her works, unless I could afterwards
converse on the subjects, and point out the contradictions. Mrs. Chapone's letters are written with such good
sense and unaffected humility, and contain so many useful observations, that I
only mention them to pay the worthy writer this tribute of respect. I cannot,
it is true, always coincide in opinion with her, but I always respect her. The very word respect brings Mrs. Macaulay to my
remembrance. The woman of the greatest abilities, undoubtedly, that this
country has ever produced; and yet this woman has been suffered to die without
sufficient respect being paid to her memory. Posterity, however, will be more just, and remember
that Catherine Macaulay was an example of intellectual acquirements supposed to
be incompatible with the weakness of her sex. In her style of writing, indeed,
no sex appears, for it is like the sense it conveys, strong and clear. I will not call hers a masculine understanding,
because I admit not of such an arrogant assumption of reason; but I contend
that it was a sound one, and that her judgment, the matured fruit of profound
thinking, was a proof that a woman can acquire judgment in the full extent of
the word. Possessing more penetration than sagacity, more understanding than
fancy, she writes with sober energy and argumentative closeness; yet sympathy
and benevolence give an interest to her sentiments, and that vital heat to
arguments, which forces the reader to weigh them.10 When I first thought of writing these strictures I
anticipated Mrs. Macaulay's approbation, with a little of that sanguine ardour
which it has been the business of my life to depress, but soon heard with the
sickly qualm-of disappointed hope, and the still seriousness of regret that
she was no more! SECTION V Taking a view of the different works which have been
written on education, Lord Chesterfield's Letters must not be silently passed
over. Not that I mean to analyse his unmanly, immoral system, or even to cull
any of the useful, shrewd remarks which occur in his epistles. No, I only mean
to make a few reflections on the avowed tendency of them, the art of acquiring
an early knowledge of the world an art, I will venture to assert, that preys
secretly, like the worm in the bud, on the expanding powers, and turns to
poison the generous juices which should mount with vigour in the youthful
frame, inspiring warm affections and great resolves.11 For everything, saith the wise man, there is a
season; and who would look for the fruits of autumn during the genial months of
spring? But this is mere declamation, and I mean to reason with those
worldly-wise instructors, who, instead of cultivating the judgment, instil
prejudices, and render hard the heart that gradual experience would only have
cooled. An early acquaintance with human infirmities; or, what is termed
knowledge of the world, is the surest way, in my opinion, to contract the heart
and damp the natural youthful ardour which produces not only great talents, but
great virtues. For the vain attempt to bring forth the fruit of experience,
before the sapling has out thrown its leaves, only exhausts its strength, and
prevents its assuming a natural form; just as the form and strength of
subsiding metals are injured when the attraction of cohesion is disturbed. Tell me, ye who have studied the human mind, is it
not a strange way to fix principles by showing young people that they are
seldom stable? And how can they be fortified by habits when they are proved to
be fallacious by example? Why is the ardour of youth thus to be damped, and the
luxuriancy of fancy cut to the quick? This dry caution may, it is true, guard a
character from worldly mischances, but will infallibly preclude excellence in
either virtue or knowledge.12 The stumbling-block thrown across
every path by suspicion will prevent any vigorous exertions of genius or
benevolence, and life will be stripped of its most alluring charm long before
its calm evening, when man would retire to contemplation for comfort and
support. A young man who has been bred up with domestic
friends, and led to store his mind with as much speculative knowledge as can be
acquired by reading and the natural reflections which youthful ebullitions of
animal spirits and instinctive feelings inspire, will enter the world with warm
and erroneous expectations. But this appears to be the course of Nature. and in
morals, as well as in works of taste, we should be observant of her sacred
indications, and not presume to lead when we ought obsequiously to follow. In the world few act from principle; present feelings
and early habits are the grand springs; but how would the former be deadened,
and the latter rendered iron-corroding fetters, if the world were shown to
young people just as it is, when no knowledge of mankind or their own hearts, slowly
obtained by experience, rendered them forbearing? Their fellow-creatures would
not then be viewed as frail beings like themselves, condemned to struggle with
human infirmities, and sometimes displaying the light, and sometimes the dark,
side of their character; extorting alternate feelings of love and disgust, but
guarded against as beasts of prey, till every enlarged social feeling in a
word, humanity was eradicated. In life, on the contrary, as we gradually discover
the imperfections of our nature, we discover virtues, and various circumstances
attach us to our fellow-creatures, when we mix with them and view the same
objects, that are never thought of in acquiring a hasty unnatural knowledge of
the world. We see a folly swell into a vice, by almost imperceptible degrees,
and pity while we blame; but if the hideous monster burst suddenly on our
sight, fear and disgust, rendering us more severe than man ought to be, might
lead us with blind zeal to usurp the character of omnipotence, and denounce
damnation on our fellow-mortals, forgetting that we cannot read the heart, and
that we have seeds of the same vices lurking in our own. I have already remarked that we expect more from
instruction than mere instruction can produce; for instead of preparing young
people to encounter the evils of life with dignity, and to acquire wisdom and
virtue by the exercise of their own13 faculties, precepts are heaped
upon precepts, and blind obedience required when conviction should be brought
home to reason. Suppose, for instance, that a young person, in the
first ardour of friendship, deifies the beloved object, what harm can arise
from this mistaken enthusiastic attachment? Perhaps it is necessary for virtue
first to appear in a human form to impress youthful hearts; the ideal model,
which a more matured and exalted mind looks up to, and shapes for itself, would
elude their sight. "He who loves not his brother whom he hath seen, how
can he love God?" asked the wisest of men. It is natural for youth to adorn the first object of
its affection with every good quality, and the emulation produced by ignorance,
or, to speak with more propriety, by inexperience, brings forward the mind
capable of forming such an affection, and when, in the lapse of time,
perfection is found not to be within the reach of mortals, virtue,
abstractedly, is thought beautiful, and wisdom sublime. Admiration then gives
place to friendship, properly so called, because it is cemented by esteem; and
the being walks alone only dependent on Heaven for that emulous panting after
perfection which ever glows in a noble mind. But this knowledge a man must gain
by the exertion of his own faculties; and this is surely the blessed fruit of
disappointed hope! for He who delighteth to diffuse happiness and show mercy to
the weak creatures, who are learning to know Him, never implanted a good
propensity to be a tormenting ignis fatuus. Our trees are now allowed to spread with wild
luxuriance, nor do we expect by force to combine the majestic marks of time
with youthful graces; but wait patiently till they have struck deep their root,
and braved many a storm. Is the mind then, which, in proportion to its dignity,
advances more slowly towards perfection, to be treated with less respect? To
argue from analogy, everything around us is in a progressive state; and when an
unwelcome knowledge of life produces almost a satiety of life, and we discover
by the natural course of things that all that is done under the sun is vanity,
we are drawing near the awful close of the drama. The days of activity and hope are over, and the opportunities which the
first stage of existence has afforded of advancing in the scale of
intelligence, must soon be summed up. A knowledge at this period of the
futility of life, or earlier, if obtained by experience, is very useful,
because it is natural; but when a frail being is shown the follies and vices of
man, that he may be taught prudently to guard against the common casualties of
life by sacrificing his heart surely it is not speaking harshly to call it
the wisdom of this world, contrasted with the nobler fruit of piety and
experience. I will venture a paradox, and deliver my opinion
without reserve; if men were only born to form a circle of life and death, it
would be wise to take every step that foresight could suggest to render life
happy. Moderation in every pursuit would then be supreme wisdom; and the
prudent voluptuary might enjoy a degree of content, though he neither cultivated his understanding nor
kept his heart pure. Prudence, supposing we were mortal, would be true wisdom,
or, to be more explicit, would procure the greatest portion of happiness,
considering the whole of life, but knowledge beyond the conveniences of life
would be a curse. Why should we injure our health by close study? The
exalted pleasure which intellectual pursuits afford would scarcely be
equivalent to the hours of languor that follow; especially, if it be necessary
to take into the reckoning the doubts and disappointments that cloud our
researches. Vanity and vexation close every inquiry: for the cause which we
particularly wished to discover flies like the horizon before us as we advance.
The ignorant, on the contrary, resemble children, and suppose, that if they
could walk straight forward they should at last arrive where the earth and
clouds meet. Yet, disappointed as we are in our researches, the mind gains
strength by the exercise, sufficient, perhaps, to comprehend the answers which,
in another step of existence, it may receive to the anxious questions it asked,
when the understanding with feeble wing was fluttering round the visible
effects to dive into the hidden cause. The passions also, the winds of life, would be
useless, if not injurious, did the substance which composes our thinking being,
after we have thought in vain, only become the support of vegetable life, and
invigorate a cabbage, or blush in a rose. The appetites would answer every
earthly purpose, and produce more moderate and permanent happiness. But the
powers of the soul that are of little use here, and, probably, disturb our
animal enjoyments, even while conscious dignity makes us glory in possessing
them, prove that life is merely an education, a state of infancy, to which the
only hopes worth cherishing should not be sacrificed. I mean, therefore, to
infer, that we ought to have a precise idea of what we wish to attain by
education, for the immortality of the soul is contradicted by the actions of
many people who firmly profess the belief. If you mean to secure ease and prosperity on earth as
the first consideration, and leave futurity to provide for itself; you act
prudently in giving your child an early insight into the weaknesses of his
nature. You may not, it is true, make an Inkle of him; but do not imagine that
he will stick to more than the letter of the law, who has very early imbibed a
mean opinion of human nature; nor will he think it necessary to rise much above
the common standard. He may avoid gross vices, because honesty is the best
policy; but he will never aim at attaining great virtues. The example of
writers and artists will illustrate this remark. I must therefore venture to doubt whether what has
been thought an axiom in morals may not have been a dogmatical assertion made
by men who have coolly seen mankind through the medium of books, and say, in
direct contradiction to them, that the regulation of the passions is not,
always, wisdom. on the contrary, it should seem, that one reason why men have
superior judgment, and more fortitude than women, is undoubtedly this, that
they give a freer scope to the grand passions, and by more frequently going
astray enlarge their minds. If then by the exercise of their own reason they
fix on some stable principle, they have probably to thank the force of their
passions, nourished by false views of life, and permitted to overleap the
boundary that secures content. But if, in the dawn of life, we could soberly
survey the scenes before as in perspective, and see everything in its true
colours, how could the passions gain sufficient strength to unfold the
faculties? Let me now as from an eminence survey the world
stripped of all its false delusive charms. The clear atmosphere enables me to
see each object in its true point of view, while my heart is still. I am calm
as the prospect in a morning when the mists, slowly dispersing, silently unveil
the beauties of nature, refreshed by rest. In what light will the world now appear? I rub my
eyes, and think, perchance, that I am just awaking from a lively dream. I see the sons and daughters of men pursuing shadows,
and anxiously wasting their powers to feed passions which have no adequate
object. If the very excess of these blind impulses, pampered by that lying, yet
constantly trusted guide, the imagination, did not, by preparing them for some
other state, render short-sighted mortals wiser without their own concurrence,
or, what comes to the same thing, when pursuing some imaginary present good. After viewing objects in this light, it would not be
fanciful to imagine that this world was a stage on which a pantomime is daily
performed for the amusement of superior beings. How would they be diverted to
see the ambitious man consuming himself by running after a phantom, and
"pursuing the bubble fame in the cannon's mouth" that was to blow him
to nothing; for when consciousness is lost, it matters not whether we mount in
a whirlwind, or descend in rain. And should they compassionately invigorate his
sight, and show him the thorny path which led to eminence, that, like a
quicksand, sinks as he ascends, disappointing his hopes when almost within his
grasp, would he not leave to others the honour of amusing them, and labour to
secure the present moment, though, from the constitution of his nature, he
would not find it very easy to catch the flying stream? Such slaves are we to
hope and fear! But vain as the ambitious man's pursuits would be, he
is often striving for something more substantial than fame. That, indeed, would
be the veriest meteor, the wildest fire that could lure a man to ruin. What!
renounce the most trifling gratification to be applauded when he should be no
more! Wherefore this struggle, whether man be mortal or immortal, if that noble
passion did not really raise the being above his fellows? And love! What diverting scenes would it produce;
pantaloon's tricks must yield to more egregious folly. To see a mortal adorn an
object with imaginary charms, and then fall down and worship the idol which he
had himself set up how ridiculous But what serious consequences ensue to rob
man of that portion of happiness which the Deity by calling him into existence
has (or on what can His attributes rest?) indubitably promised. Would not all
the purposes of life have been much better fulfilled if he had only felt what
has been termed physical love? And would not the sight of the object, not seen
through the medium of the imagination, soon reduce the passion to an appetite
if reflection, the noble distinction of man, did not give it force, and make it
an instrument to raise him above this earthly dross, by teaching him to love
the centre of all perfection, whose wisdom appears clearer and clearer in the
works of nature in proportion as reason is illuminated and exalted by
contemplation, and by acquiring that love of order which the struggles of passion
produce? The habit of reflection, and the knowledge attained
by fostering any passion, might be shown to be equally useful, though the
object be proved equally fallacious; for they would all appear in the same
light if they were not magnified by the governing passion implanted in us by
the Author of all good to call forth and strengthen the faculties of each
individual, and enable it to attain all the experience that an infant can
obtain who does certain things, it cannot tell why. I descend from my height, and mixing with my
fellow-creatures feel myself hurried along the common stream. Ambition, love,
hope, and fear, exert their wonted power, though we be convinced by reason that
their present and most attractive promises are only lying dreams; but had the
cold hand of circumspection damped each generous feeling before it had left any
permanent character, or fixed some habit, what could be expected but selfish
prudence and reason just rising above instinct? Who that has read Dean Swift's
disgusting description of the Yahoos, and insipid one of Houyhnhnm with a
philosophical eye, can avoid seeing the futility of degrading the passions, or
making man rest in contentment? The youth should act, for had he the experience of a
grey head he would be fitter for death than life, though his virtues, rather
residing in his head than his heart, could produce nothing great, and his
understanding, prepared for this world, would not, by its noble flights, prove
that it had a title to a better. Besides, it is not possible to give a young person a
just view of life; he must have struggled with his own passions before he can
estimate the force of the temptation which betrayed his brother into vice.
Those who are entering life, and those who are departing, see the world from
such very different points of view that they can seldom think alike, unless the
unfledged reason of the former never attempted a solitary flight. When we hear of some daring crime, it comes full on
us in the deepest shade of turpitude, and raises indignation; but the eye that
gradually saw the darkness thicken must observe it with more compassionate
forbearance. The world cannot be seen by an unmoved spectator; we must mix in
the throng, and feel as men feel, before we can judge of their feelings. If we
mean, in short, to live in the world, to grow wiser and better, and not merely
to enjoy the good things of life, we must attain a knowledge of others at the
same time that we become acquainted with ourselves. Knowledge acquired any
other way only hardens the heart, and perplexes the understanding. I may be told that the knowledge thus acquired is
sometimes purchased at too dear a rate. I can only answer that I very much
doubt whether any knowledge can be attained without labour and sorrow; and
those who wish to spare their children both should not complain if they are
neither wise nor virtuous. They only aimed at making them prudent, and prudence
early in life is but the cautious craft of ignorant self-love. I have observed that young people, to whose education
particular attention has been paid, have in general been very superficial and
conceited, and far from pleasing in any respect, because they had neither the
unsuspecting warmth of youth, nor the cool depth of age. I cannot help imputing
this unnatural appearance principally to that hasty premature instruction which
leads them presumptuously to repeat all the crude notions they have taken upon
trust, so that the careful education which they received, makes them all their
lives the slaves of prejudices. Mental as well as bodily exertion is at first
irksome; so much so, that the many would fain let others both work and think
for them. An observation which I have often made will illustrate my meaning.
When in a circle of strangers or acquaintances a person of moderate abilities
asserts an opinion with heat, I will venture to affirm-for I have traced this
fact home' very often that it is a
prejudice. These echoes have a high respect for the understanding of some
relation or friend, and without fully comprehending the opinions which they are
so eager to retail, they maintain them with a degree of obstinacy that would
surprise even the person who concocted them. I know that a kind of fashion now prevails of
respecting prejudices; and when anyone dares to face them, though actuated by
humanity and armed by reason, he is superciliously asked whether his ancestors
were fools. No, I should reply. opinions at first of every description were all
probably considered, and therefore were founded on some reason; yet not
unfrequently, of course, it was rather a local expedient than a fundamental
principle that would be reasonable at all times. But moss-covered opinions
assume the disproportioned form of prejudices when they are indolently adopted
only because age has given them a venerable aspect, though the reason on which
they were built ceases to be a reason, or cannot be traced. Why are we to love
prejudices merely because they are prejudices?14 A prejudice is a
fond obstinate persuasion for which we can give no reason; for the moment a
reason can be given for an opinion, it ceases to be a prejudice, though it may
be an error in judgment; and are we then advised to cherish opinions only to
set reason at defiance? This mode of arguing, if arguing it may be called,
reminds me of what is vulgarly termed a woman's reason; for women sometimes
declare that they love, or believe certain things, because they love or believe
them. It is impossible to converse with people to any
purpose who only use affirmatives and negatives. Before you can bring them to a
point to start fairly from, you must go back to the simple principles that were
antecedent to the prejudices broached by power; and it is ten to one but you
are stopped by the philosophical assertion that certain principles are as
practically false as they are abstractly true.15 Nay, it may be
inferred that reason has whispered some doubts, for it generally happens that
people assert their opinions with the greatest heat when they begin to waver;
striving to drive out their own doubts by convincing their opponent, they grow
angry when those gnawing doubts are thrown back to prey on themselves. The fact is, that men expect from education, what
education cannot give. A sagacious parent or tutor may strengthen the body and
sharpen the instruments by which the child is to gather knowledge; but the
honey must be the reward of the individual's own industry. It is almost as
absurd to attempt to make a youth wise by the experience of another, as to
expect the body to grow strong by the exercise which is only talked of, or
seen.16 Many of those children whose conduct has been most narrowly
watched, become the weakest men, because their instructors only instil certain
notions into their minds, that have no other foundation than their authority;
and if they be loved or respected, the mind is cramped in its exertions and
wavering in its advances. The business of education in this case, is only to
conduct the shooting tendrils to a proper pole; yet after laying precept upon
precept, without allowing a child to acquire judgment itself, parents expect
them to act in the same manner by this borrowed fallacious light, as if they
had illuminated it themselves; and be, when they enter life, what their parents
are at the close. They do not consider that the tree, and even the human body,
does not strengthen its fibres till it has reached its full growth. There appears to be something analogous in the mind.
The senses and the imagination give a form to the character, during childhood
and youth; and the understanding, as life advances, gives firmness to the first
fair purposes of sensibility, till virtue, arising rather from the clear
conviction of reason than the impulse of the heart, morality is made to rest on
a rock against which the storms of passion vainly beat. I hope I shall not be misunderstood when I say, that
religion will not have this condensing energy, unless it be founded on reason.
If it be merely the refuge of weakness or wild fanaticism, and not a governing
principle of conduct, drawn from self-knowledge, and a rational opinion
respecting the attributes of God, what can it be expected to produce? The
religion which consists in warming the affections, and exalting the
imagination, is only the poetical part, and may afford the individual pleasure
without rendering it a more moral being. It may be a substitute for worldly
pursuits; yet narrow, instead of enlarging the heart: but virtue must be loved
as in itself sublime and excellent, and not for the advantages it procures or
the evils. it averts, if any great degree of excellence be expected. Men will
not become moral when they only build airy castles in a future world to
compensate for the disappointments which they meet with in this; if they turn
their thoughts from relative duties to religious reveries. Most prospects in life are marred by the shuffling
worldly wisdom of men, who, forgetting that they cannot serve God and mammon,
endeavour to blend contradictory things. If you wish to make your son rich,
pursue one course if you are only anxious to make him virtuous, you must not
imagine that you can bound from one road to the other without losing your way.17
1 I have
already inserted the passage, p.44. 2 What
nonsense! 3 What
is to the consequence, if the mother's and husband's opinion should chance not
to agree? An ignorant person cannot be reasoned out of an error -and when
persuaded to give up one prejudice for another the mind is unsettled. Indeed,
the husband may not have any religion to teach her, though in such a situation
she will be in great want of a support to her virtue, independent of worldly
considerations. 4
Rousseau's Emilius. 5 Can
you? Can you? would be the most emphatical comment, were it drawled out in a
whining voice. 6 Let
women once acquire good sense and if it deserve the name, it will teach them;
or, of what use will it be? how to employ it. 7
"He is the free man, whom the truth makes free!" Cowper. 8 I mean
to use a word that comprehends more than chastity, the sexual virtue. 9 A
person is not to act in this or that way, though convinced they are right in so
doing, because some equivocal circumstances may lead the world to suspect that
they acted from different motives. This is sacrificing the substance for a
shadow. Let people by watch their own hearts, and act rightly, as far as they
can judge, and they may patiently wait till the opinion of the world comes
round. It is best to be directed by a simple motive, for justice has too often
been sacrificed to propriety -another word for convenience. 10
Coinciding in opinion with Mrs. Macauly relative to many branches of education,
I refer to her valuable work, instead of quoting her sentiments to support my
own. 11 That
children ought to be constantly guarded against the vices and follies of the
world appears to me a very mistaken opinion; for in the course of my
experience, and my eyes have looked abroad, I newer knew a youth educated in
this manner, who had early imbibed these chilling suspicions, and repeated by
rote the hesitating if of age, that did not prove a selfish character. 12 I
have already observed that an early knowledge of the world, obtained in a
natural way, by mixing in the world, has the same effect, instancing officers
and women. 13
"I find that all is but lip-wisdom which want experience," says
Sidney. 14 Vide
Mr. Burke. 15
"Convince a man against his will, He's of the same opinion still." 16 'One
sees nothing when one is content to contemplate only: it is necessary to act
oneself to be able to see how others act." Rousseau. 17 see an excellent essay on this subject by Mrs. Barbauld, in Miscellaneous Pieces in Prose. |